Indian Sex Psyche in a Digital Native Society

A 15-minute clip from Ina, a 1982 Malayalam film by popular director I.V. Sasi that deals with youthful lust and child marriage, is the most viewed Indian video on YouTube. It has more than 117 million views, and it appears to be the only Indian video to have more than a 100 million YouTube views.

Ina was a trendsetting movie which received many positive reviews during a time when even talking about sex was considered as a taboo in Kerala. Many parents of the 80’s were reluctant to send their kids to watch this movie as they thought it would corrupt their children. “My mom was an adherent moviegoer. She never stopped us from watching movies, but when Ina released, she was so unyielding to our requests and every time she came up with some kind of excuse. Only later in our life did we understand the real cause of her worry” says Jayasree who is now 50.

But what makes the movie so popular on the YouTube four decades after its release? Why are the other classics of Padmarajan and Bharathan not among the list of top ten most viewed video on YouTube? And the bigger question is why only 15 minutes not the whole movie getting the maximum hits? The answer is hidden inside the top ten Malayalam videos on YouTube; they are all Blue Films.

The case of other language videos is not different, they all feature similar keywords like Sex, Hot and Masala.

This reminds me of a case where three Ministers from Karnataka were expelled from the Legislative Assembly after the CCTV footage caught them watching pornography while the assembly proceedings were in full swing. Interestingly one of them handled the portfolio of Women and Child Development Ministry. When Google India released the report of the most searched personality of 2013 in last December, the Indo-Canadian former pornographic actress Sunny Leone was way ahead of Shah Rukh Kahan and Sachin Tendulkar. The Google trends report shows that the volume of search for the term “porn” has more than doubled since 2010 – 2013. These reports indicate that porn is freely available to anyone in India who has access to internet, regardless to their sex and age.

The writing on the wall is so clear; the number of people who are becoming addicts of pornographic videos and the increase in cases related to sexual abuse in India are in a proportionally high level.

New technology in the hands of the young, who uses it irresponsibly, could lead to a catastrophe. The new generation (which the techies call as the “digital natives”), are less guided by their parents and teachers (tagged as digital immigrants) as they are less informed about the new world of gadgetry. Teens have an inquisitive mind, which is controlled by peer pressure. But when pornography becomes their answer for sexual inquisitiveness, they become perverts. MMS Porn videos of students, circulating in schools in Kerala have been reported many times by the media. In some cases the victims have even went to the extent of committing suicide. According to a study conducted on 1000 students of both sex, 47% of high school boys and 29% of high school girls talk about porn in their classrooms.

What is more startling is the kind of videos the young prefer to watch. According to webmaster report of a website, the keywords searched for entering a porn site has changed over the last few years. A few years back people used short keywords like Rape, penetration, oral, anal, lesbian, gay etc. to make their porn search, but now the terms have become more violent and inhuman, with the user searching for what exactly he/she needs.

In India watching porn is considered legal but distributing or publishing pornographic content is considered as a crime under laws laid down in Sec.292 of the Indian Penal Code, which came about by Act 36 of 2000. According to Alexa Ranking of top 500 Indian Website 24 are porn sites. The legal machinery in India has failed to take action against these sites that even publish child pornography. A report of Optenet says, 40% of the web is made up of pornographic sites. As the WWW is open to all, including teens to consume porn materials, these sites are just a click away from reaching them. The search for these sites begins with simple googling of their peer doubts, which can be answered if they are given proper awareness in schools.

A few years back when the Government of Kerala introduced Adolescent Education Programme on the recommendation of UNESCO there was stiff opposition from the church saying the programme will lead to “sexual anarchy” in the state. The programme was intended to give awareness about sexuality and sexually transmitted diseases to class IX and class XI students of more than 4,000 high schools and higher secondary schools. Due to controversies the programme didn’t took off in Kerala. The same happened in the states of Karnataka, Gujarat, Maharashtra and Madhya Pradesh. But Tamil Nadu implemented this programme long back in 1997 and it has been proved successful.

India lacks Sex education; this is a fact which is overlooked during discussions on fighting rape and other cases of sexual abuse. Rather than fighting for a law to castrate the rapist or to hang him, the discussions should extend to a broader platform were in we can put a cap on the root so that further growth is restricted for ever. Moreover sex education in schools will also reduce the number of HIV cases in India. According to Government reports 40% of the total HIV affected people are under the age group of 15-29.

An Indian American News Website reported the trend of watching pornographic videos is synonymous to all states in India but higher in the state of Kerala, which boasts about the high literacy rate.

The YouTube videos and their counts is a direct reflection of the sexually frustrated Indian youth. If this trend continuous for a long time the result would be a million youth with unusual behaviour. As a country which boasts about its youth as the way forward in achieving global leadership, Indian government should take Sex Education seriously at the earliest.

Importance of Sex Education Among Teenagers

In many societies, people feel embarrassed while discussing sex. It has been associated for so long with unacceptable and dirty feelings. Embarrassment also comes from the mystery surrounding this whole act. Many religious preachers preach to abstain from sex and observe abstinence to attain salvation. But in societies where sex has been open and free, it is accepted much more easily as being normal and natural.

Many families do not feel its necessary to talk on this topic. They do not discuss it to their children and as a consequence children try to discover it through their own. Generally the teens learn the major part of this vital science from their friends who themselves are not well known of the complete fact.

Boys in their puberty enjoy looking at the picture of naked women. Generally boys and men can become sexually aroused when looking at picture of naked women in magazines, adult films and by having sexual fantasies. Sexual arousal is a pleasurable feeling. So they enjoy looking at such kind of things.

Many times boys and girl masturbate. It helps relieve some of the sexual tension that is an inevitable part of growing up. Both boys and girls get involved in this type of things. Boys masturbate more than girls because the penis is more accessible and they are more used to touching it.

Masturbation is not bad for health in anyway. But always remember that it should not become compulsive. Girls and women masturbate mostly with their hands, rubbing against the sensitive, clitoris at the top of the vulva. They may use a firm action over the whole vulva. Sometimes using one or more fingers to enter the vagina and imitate the rhythmic movement of intercourse.

There is no specific age when boys or girls suddenly become interested in sex. The way they feel about it, has a lot to do with the level of sex hormones which are estrogen in girl and testosterone in boy. Physical features directly involved in sexual behaviour and reproduction. The gonads (testes and ovaries) and the external sex organs (penis and vagina) are known as primary sex characteristics.

There are few terms like promiscuous and nymphomaniac. We will discuss these terms in brief. Promiscuity is a sexual behavior which denotes having physical relation with a variety of partners. But this does not apply to the girl who carries contraceptives. It is a wise step to keep contraceptives as she is accepting responsibility for her actions. She cares both for herself and her partners.

Nymphomaniac is a compulsive need for sexual stimulation and gratification in women, frequently leading to promiscuity or to masturbation performed several time a day. But in this case it simply means that she is young and healthy. But if a girl feels sexy for more than one boy at a time, it does not mean she is nymphomaniac.

Lessons on the Most Comfortable Intercourse Position During Pregnancy

Sex spices up the relationship especially when the woman is pregnant. This may occur shocking to you but that is what exactly what makes it all the more special. The thing which few people do during pregnancy it what makes the act of lovemaking more intimate and extraordinary. Actually, there is nothing to fear about making love when you are expecting a child. As long as you know how to do the most comfortable positions during pregnancy, then there is nothing to worry about. The child is deep inside your womb, safely protected from external factors that would do him harm. As long as your partner doesn’t thrust inside you so violently or deeply during sexual intercourse, then there is nothing to worry about.

Have you noticed the physical make up of your womb? There is a noticeable gap between the vulva of the vagina and the baby. It only means that nature already contemplated the instance where a woman might still be engaging in sexual acts even being pregnant or at least nature allows it to happen. Hence, the baby is safely tucked away deep inside the uterus.

It is admitted that it is still important to practice caution, hence we gave lessons about the correct pregnancy intercourse positions. There are different of doing this which are proven to give every couple satisfaction just like in normal sex. Be able to hurdle the obstacle of getting intimate with your wife or husband during pregnancy by taking time to learn the proper pregnancy intercourse positions.